“If you are tired from carrying heavy burdens, come to me and I will give you rest. 29 Take the yoke I give you. Put it on your shoulders and learn from me. I am gentle and humble, and you will find rest. This yoke is easy to bear, and this burden is light.”
Matthew 11:28-30 (CEV)
It was the week of Sesan’s Murder trial. He had been locked up for weeks after the incident and each time his trial was fixed, for one reason or the other, it was moved further away. The waiting period heightened the tension which never seemed to go away at all. It was either the judge had an accident or was unavoidably absent or had to attend to family issues. It was just from one excuse to another and two years of misery had crept by just like that. Life was hard and exhausting for Maureen. She wiped the tears that burned her eyelids again. She was always crying and depressed. It was a miracle she hadn’t been diagnosed of HBP or some terrible ailment.
As she stood in what used to be Sesan’s bedroom she couldn’t hold the stream of tears that seemed to flow now without remedy. Her misery started after a brief 10 years of marriage. She could remember quite vividly the dress she wore when the news of her husband’s death was brought to her. Dotun was a very handsome and intelligent but shy man. But he had eyed Maureen the first day he met her in his cousin’s birthday party. She later learnt that he had got his cousin, who was her friend, an expensive birthday present in exchange for arranging an ‘accidental’ meeting for them. She smiled through her tears as she remembered the way he shivered around her and was practically drooling. She pretended not to notice the look in his eyes when he held her hands and kissed it. From then on it was bliss so it wasn’t such a surprise to their friends when he proposed marriage three years later. One of the promises he made to her was that he would never leave her alone. On the day the news came, she had just found out that after ten years of waiting for a child, she was finally pregnant. She knew Dotun was going to practically kiss her all-over. He had been her pillar throughout the waiting period. She wore her lovely yellow polka dot gown that he loved so much for some reason known to him, as he would always say. She fussed with dinner as she couldn’t get herself to settle out of sheer excitement. Her mind was still on whether to call for delivery dinner or go out when she heard the knock. She flung her door open expecting to see her sweetheart but was greeted with the sullen face of two of his friends who happened to be his colleagues. There had been an accident, they explained. The office was attacked by armed robbers and his death was collateral damage.
She didn’t know how she survived it all. After the burial, her in-laws frustrated her out of the house and called her a witch. It was a life of pain and struggle. When Sesan was born, he looked so much like Dotun that she couldn’t bear to touch him for days. On his first birthday she wept terribly. This was supposed to be the happiest time of their lives. Had Dotun been alive, it would have been celebrated with great pump and pageantry. But here she was, she could hardly afford to give him a decent life and was grateful for the support her parents gave. Sesan’s hard time had got him mixed up with drugs and bad friends and here she was. He had actually drawn a gun and shot his friend over a heated argument. It was obvious that he had acted on impulse but he still had to pay the price. She had cleaned her little savings to get him a decent defense lawyer.
The legal proceedings took a while. After his guilty verdict was read and he was sentenced to 25 years of imprisonment, she noticed the look of regret and pain in Sesan’s eyes. He was hurting deep within and needed all the support he could get. Add 25 years to her 48 years and she knew she didn’t have much of a chance. Life has been very unfair to her. Her world was crumbling so fast all she had was herself, Sesan who was in the prison, and God! Oh the thought of God sent such flicker of hope in her heart. She knew there was a God; there was no doubt about that. But why had He allowed her all this pain in her life? What was she ever going to do to get free of the choking depression? She had never remarried after Dotun’s death and so had no companion. What was she going to do? As she sat on the sitting room sofa, she experienced a push, an energy to pray. She knew it was much stronger than she could handle. She didn’t know how so she poured it all the way she knew. And like Hannah, the barren woman in the bible, she knelt down in drunken communion and poured out her heart to God. She was 48, true. Her son, and only child, was going to be in jail for 25 years which was enough burden to kill a woman. But she felt peace. She gave her burden to the Lord and somehow knew she could have her remaining 40 something years of life in better hands…in His hands. It was then she heard the unwavering voice of the Master. It was time to stretch her limbs, to make the most of her life, what’s left of it, to get better and to be happy. So she made the decision to let Him help her. She could get up and smell the coffee and go through the storm with His strong arm of grace. She knew it wasn’t the end of life and that it was going to be okay.
Let’s pause here for a second. Ladies, this story depicts the deepest level of calamities and pain and burden that anybody can be faced with. In the midst of severe hardship and storms of life, the Bible says when we build our house on the Solid Rock, we are sure to remain standing firm no matter how fierce the storm or the heavy the rain. No matter where you are right now, all hope isn’t lost. It is possible to pick up the pieces of your life and ‘move on’. But there has to be a conscious step towards coming to Him and letting Him handle that burden of pain, depression. I have found this to be the best antidote for pain and sorrow especially situations when have no idea what to do and how to go about it just give him the free reign to take care of it. He didn’t say the storms won’t come. But he promised that when we go through the fire and the threatening flood he would be with us. What can we do in such situations of utter helplessness?
1. Praise is a weapon of warfare. It invites God to your situation. You tell him “I know about all these troubles and situations but I also know that You have the power and all that it takes to make a change and/or give me what it takes to get though it” It lodges you total trust in your heavenly bank account as it were and releases God’s miraculous.
2. Worship and Thanksgiving. You recount all His mercies in your life. Remind Him of that time He helped you through that seemingly difficult situation. At that time you thought all hope was lost and there was no hope in view and then like a flash, He stepped into the situation in all His glory. Worship recognizes the personality of God and reflects who He is to you.
3. Prayers. This means talking to God and totally telling Him how you feel, without any technicalities, and pouring it all at His feet. It also reflects your understanding of your position in Christ. As a Princess, you make declarations. If your Father created the entire universe in six days with the words, you too can shape your world by your words. Speak life to your circumstances and not death and despair.
What will He do for you in return?
· He will give you peace that passes all understanding. A certain calmness in your spirit that is invigorating and inspiring. When His peace is in your heart, you go through situations without fainting and without giving room to fear.
· He will fill your heart with gratitude. Gratitude moves God to perfecting all that concerns you.
· You can expect the miraculous. God works in mysterious ways. So let Him handle it.
Shalom!
Marvellous Ogbonna-Okoro
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