FEMINITY IS SPELT “S-T-R-E-N-G-H-T”

“A good woman is hard to find, and worth far more than diamonds”

Proverbs 31:10

The recession bit hard! First it started with the reduction of her husband’s pay check, then came the announcement that the company could not keep up with the enormous task of paying overhead without commensurate profit and then the retrenchments. Her husband was affected. He had had a lucrative job that paid all the bills to a T and she didn’t have to soil her toes…except of course it had to do with running after the kids and taking care of the home front. 

Then reality set in! Her allowance dwindled and then came to a grinding halt. She knew she had to readjust. Her marriage oaths said “For better or for worse”. They had no savings left to fall back on and truth be told, they had been a little bit too comfortable and had forgotten to cover their backs. No one ever anticipated that her husband of all people would be affected…but he was. That was the reality they had to deal with.

She dusted her resume. She was a trained and qualified accountant and had to knock on several doors until a window finally opened for her from which some rays of sunlight streamed in until her husband found something else to do to earn some income. 

The scene above represents the reality of some women. Single, married, single mother or whatever role you currently play, life deals different cards to you at different stages of your life. Some of these experiences require that you make a decision; decide to be a pushover and do nothing or take the bull by the horn and respond with equal strength.

In the example above, strength was shown by the support the woman gave to her husband in trying times. Don’t let anyone fool you, it is a lot sweeter to be weak than strong…at least for a while that is, until you have to go through the famous reality checks. 

It could be a single woman battling with all kinds of ailments where it is just easier to give up and give in to fear or dealing with lack and joblessness and it’s easy to just lose yourself and trade your significance to become a certified dependent (meanwhile nothing do your hands and feet o, cos let’s face it :people become CEOs and yet are far less opportuned than you are).

It can also be just someone who has accepted the status quo that women never amount to anything good or are not as intelligent as their male counterpart. In this part of the world, where I am privileged to come from, it is very common for a woman who have lots of female children to be looked upon as a dismal failure (since in addition to being a living human oven, she also shares God’s position as being a child giver, perhaps). Or you happen to be raised in that kind of family where any investment preferences are first given to the important males in the family then you get the leftovers.
Back up a little bit sister. Grab your cup of green tea (since the fad these days is to stay trim), let’s think about this logically shall we? You have to be a lot of things in one. You are the one who is endowed with intuitiveness, great multi-tasking skills, ability to smile even when you are losing blood every month and it hurts like hell or worse, you carry a human being for nine months who goes in as a tiny cell called sperm and comes out as a fully developed human being, you are the only one who can drive, and plan the menu and deliver the speech all in your mind at one time. You are a lot of things in one, remember! And you let people get away with calling you weak? Think again! Do not lose the hidden treasure that God has put into you. For in keeping your head high comes the noble character to keep walking tall (not necessarily on heels though:mrgreen:). You are God’s finest creation. Noble, strong and very beautiful inside out. 

​Marvellous Okoro (Mrs)

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Not Just Boobs and Ass

Yeah ladies, It’s weekend so we just chilling, catching up on highlights of our week and all. I had a terrific week! I was always praying for my readers (not to sound over-the-top spiritual though) and blogging endlessly. I combine work with my blog activities. Many times I blog on the go but yesterday I had time for just one article. So I apologize for not posting the discussion to the topic we looked at yesterday as well as the faith pills. I will have that uploaded later today.

 I have a day job as a Business Development Officer in a start-up Investment Company here in Nigeria. My job is broad. They just give it a fancy name but it’s like three jobs in one; Product Development, Marketing and Sales. It basically involves consumer analysis, competitor monitoring, R&D (just the basics), product development and testing, marketing activities and hitting the fields for sales. All these activities go on concurrently. So you can imagine what my day is usually like. One word for it is crazy. And in the midst of all the craziness, you have a ‘target’ to meet which really measures your productivity on the job.

Just as I was about rounding off my activities for the day, my head of department dragged me to see an Ultra High Net-Worth (UNHI) prospect. I mildly protested; my desk was still a bit untidy and I needed to be sure I was ready for the weekend. But my protests fell on deaf ears. Reason: the man likes beautiful women and would be more comfortable to talk with me in the picture! Gosh! I was appalled. I wasn’t some sort of specimen or just boobs and ass for goodness sake. There is a reason why people use terms like ‘beauty and brains’. I know though that in this part of the world, women are considered as second-hand citizens, sort of like a lower level human. When a woman drove a posh car, it was either her man-friend or her husband that got it for her and when she rises to a prominent position then she must have ‘screwed’ top guys to get there. It is called bottom-power. I kick strongly against this kind of assumption because it is not good for national development. I am not advocating that women abandon their roles as “keepers and builders of the home” but they should be looked upon as equal as our God, the Master of Creation intended for it to be.

I am not saying this to spite anybody, just stating the obvious. A woman is an improvement on the male ‘version’ of human beings. Usually, when manufacturers make a product and take to the market, they look at it critically and try to make an improved version of that product, inputting the qualities that were absent in the first creation and fine-tuning it for suitability. Ladies, that’s exactly what happened at creation. The ‘male’ version of Man was made first, the second version was made as an improvement of the first, taking a component from the first version. So ladies, never see yourself as not deserving of success. Just because the society expects you to be weak, unintelligent, stupid , lazy and basically reduced to an object for the ‘male’ entertainment doesn’t mean you should go ahead with that ideology. So this is a wakeup call. We are not just boobs and ass, we are God’s creation, His glorious master-piece and an epitome of His glory. Whatever it takes, make sure that you be the best you can be; improve yourself academically, morally and in every wise. Draw out from the gift that God has naturally endowed you with and be who he wants you to be. Fill your niche and like Dr. Myles Munroe put it, don’t go to the grave with the talents, creations and innovations that was put into you to succeed. Go on, be God’s finest!